For all women, the “first time” is probably complicated, not for the act itself, but for the pressure and the stress of giving this important step in life. There’s really nothing to worry about just certain aspect to consider.
It is common to hear, “it hurts”, “it makes you look like an easy girl”, “what if he is not right one?” and so on, to name a few. You should put aside those comments and relax. Not all experiences are the same, so you can take the advice, but don’t get carried away with the evil comments. Surely, when the time comes, you will exceed your own expectations and make the most out of the experience.
Do you feel peer pressure and your friends tell you that now is the right time? They are wrong! The right time to have your first sexual relationship with your boyfriend is when you are mentally prepared. Under pressure from your circle of friends or family you might be able to take a rush decision which can bring negative consequences. Then, what might be a good time could turn into a future trauma that will restrain you for future sexual intercourse.
Probably, the desire of having your first sexual encounter is in your head long ago, if so, shake away your fears! It’s time to talk to your partner and tell him how you feel about it. This will help you –both as a couple- to understand and provide comfort to enjoy the experience.
For a more pleasant first time, we highly recommend an extensive foreplay; this will help you be more lubricated at the time of penetration, and the pain everyone talks about will be driven under the table. Don’t stress out or over think the situation, just let yourself go and everything will flow in a relaxed and liberating experience. Remember that this act must happen under your consent and if your partner is pressing you to have sex, then, stay firm and say no. Only when you are ready you will be able to give this important step.
Is not what you have expected? Don’t worry because from all satiations you can have great anecdotes and if your expectations were not meet, in the future you will create wonderful experiences. Remember that best things happen when we do it with love; and this is not an exception. If you are in love, it will be one of the best and unforgettable experiences you will ever have. Be responsible, enjoy and always consider your health and wellness.
Certainly the first time creates some fear but an open communication with your couple is primordial when facing this unique experience. Forget about judgements and simply enjoy.