Parents are the foundation for their children’s success and good people. Guide them and educate them, is in your hands. Educating is not only to combat evil and censor errors, but also in encouraging good, imparting morals and enhance good works.
Too much criticism is damaging to the children; however, the stimulus helps them to continue on the right track, always looking for improvements. Prevent your child of being insecure, anxious and disturbed person. Point out mistakes with love and teach them with patience and dedication. When you have to make a criticism, be always constructive, not destructive. It is important to note:
- Avoid to remember past mistakes that have already been forgiven. This do not encourage nor discourage.
- Assess your child’s actions however small they may be.
- If you take these tips in mind, your child will try to be good and behave better.
The difficult task of preparing a child for life, not necessarily consist on satisfying his whims. Therefore, it is important to teach to resign and accept the word no. It is not something to be imposing, but teach him to accept it freely.
It is also important to learn to say no to what is allowed and then say no to know what is prohibited. Excess spoiling is bad upbringing on children, as very spoiled children suffer in life and always will be disturbed and insecure people.
Importantly you must maintain certain limits when giving gifts and pampering the little ones. Never forget that anger is bad; speaking without thinking and acting without thinking can hurt, offend, upset and lead them to commit injustices, and all this is brought to the anger. The best advice is to talk to your children calmly and have weighted attitudes.
Also note that the secrets entrusted by your children should be kept in the depths of your being and it is important to be discreet because, once they lose confidence, very seldom is recovered.
A young begins to become disoriented from the time loses confidence in his parents. While they trust you, they will always have a guide in life to orientate them.
Both love and trust that the children receive from parents are the opportunity that they have to gain a foothold in life. It is vital that when your kids want to say something, let them speak without interruption. No matter if they say wrong things, also analyzing it well you might find many truths from errors. Note that no one likes to be criticized instantly. They are not an enemy to fight, but a friend to conquer and for them there is nothing better than the fact that you know hear them.
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