Leave the cellphone and pay attention to your daughter! Who add you on Instagram? You spend all day checking the phone! These are some of the complaints that modern couples have. The use of chat, email, social networks and online games are applications that regularly affect the relationship and the closeness of the couple.
A recent investigation of CyberPsychology behavior Journal revealed that Whatsapp and Facebook provoked the ruptures of 28 million couples worldwide. This happens just after the company updated some elements. Regarding whatsapp, the study said, was due to double check syndrome and the choices you have in the application to display the last time connected or the online status.
Our generation faces problems that our parents did not have and the technology increases the probability of couple conflicts. For Alexis Lickerman, vice president of The Student Health and Counseling Services at the University of Chicago, the fact that verbal language is not in the cyber messages affects the clarity of messages by 40%, so this can increase couples breakups for misunderstandings.
Meanwhile, not get an answer from the couple immediately in the calls or messages could generate concern or anxiety, and therefore unfounded fights within the relationship. And now with social networks, the line between public and private is blurred and can increase disagreements. Also, to jealous couples the use of the cellphone seems to arouse curiosity. It has seen an increase in cases in which couples imagine infidelities and attack suspects through networks or chats. Also monitoring the wall of Facebook, it is another compulsive behavior that happens more and more every day.
However, the use of technology also has some benefits in a relationship. For those who live far away, Skype, has served to stay updated on the news and activities of their other half and even to have live sex.For many shy people, chat and applications to meet couples like Tinder, has made it easier to open up to realities and maintain relationships. The cyber world has facilitated the knowledge of people and the feedback has been more transparent.
Among some of the recommendations is to agree with the couple how they will use the technology; if you can flirt with others or not, we put aside the phone when we’re together? And acceptance that the couple can freely check each other phone. You also need to understand other aspects in life, make priorities to respond to urgent messages will make the difference. For those who are close, leave your cell phone aside and star talking face to face, go for a walk and forget for a moment the modern world. For couples who are not nearby, take advantage of the technology and enjoy of each other. As always, it’s all about communication.
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