Growing trust together is a process that requires commitment, communication, and respect above anything else. It may sound like a difficult thing to do, but what many specialists agree on is that when a couple works on building trust together, it really is complex, but not impossible. Below, you will see some fundamental tips to use with your partner every day. They are very simple to follow.
According to psychologist Ana Perales, trust is one of the foundations of every relationship, because the lack of it is what generates the greatest conflicts. Daily routine is a relationship’s main enemy, and without trust, not even strong values such as communication and respect can keep a relationship solid.
Building trust begins with self-confidence. If a person is not self-confident, then he cannot expect trust from others. Excessively wondering about what your partner might be doing or thinking could be a clear sign of insecurity. In fact, psychologists say that the term ‘projection’ means that humans tend to reflect their own weaknesses on other people.
Building trust together is the same as exercising the truth. Lies can kill trust. Some of us might tell ‘white lies’ because they are afraid of their partner’s reaction to the truth, or even to cover their mistakes and weaknesses. However, this will simply lead them to a possible breakup. It is better to be honest at all times and show who you really are.
The past must stay in the past. Although the experiences we live will always affect our future, it is fundamental to get over traumas or uncomfortable experiences, because they are only emotional burdens that stop us from moving forward, and they’ll sabotage your new relationships and stop you from enjoying a better present and future.
Empathy and comprehension are other two fundamental values to work on with your partner. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and feel the power of your actions, opinions and criticism. In a relationship, it is important to understand and consider the different opinions you two have, because after all, that’s where the richness of a relationship comes from.
Communication is a two-way process. If you have any doubt in your mind, it is important to talk to your partner about it. It could be about anything, from something that happened during the day or about the future. It is always healthy to talk about any of these things when they happen. Don’t wait until they become unhealed wounds.
ALFA