Love is magical, means to feel butterflies in the stomach, give almost life for the other, and give ourselves entirely. The problem occurs when the relationship ends. Butterflies become vultures that eat the intestines, and only imagining you without him or he with another woman, makes you tremble. You feel lost, you don’t assimilate that there won’t be more hugs, kisses, walks or phone calls. Bellow we describe the worst that can happen when you break up with your partner, and some tips to avoid it:

Planning an encounter: you imagine accidentally bump with him, and tell him you’re sorry or what lost and sad you are. The effect of this is devastating. Your sentence will be grater when you realizes that he does not want anything with you.

“One nail drives out another”: After you have left a happy relationship you get into the arms of an inadequate person, seeking to forget the sadness. This not only is not ideal, but it is cruel; especially if you know that other is crazy about you and the relationship won’t last long.

Torturing yourself: it is quite classic in scorned women. Hear a large repertoire of sad songs or neglect, they are filled with a flood of feelings and melancholy. This has consequences. If it continues for a long time, you run the risk that as disease, pain multiplies throughout your body. Each song will bring back memories, and, in addition, will want to get back to him. But forget him… never!

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Blaming yourself: you cannot heal until you understand that the problem was not yours, but from your relationship. The fights that arose led to the goodbye. You should only take the responsibility, not blame yourself. Accept responsibility, and build a bridge to pass over. There will come a day when you forget, that you won’t be interested in him anymore.

Carelessness: you decide not doll up anymore. Zero perfumes, ornaments, dresses, blouses. Everything that made you a beautiful woman… It doesn’t matter? Live your grief, but nor forget to be beautiful, pamper yourself, dress up; not for others but for yourself. That will enhance your esteem, and understand that you are entitled to the best things in life.

Harmful hobbies: you do not come unstuck from the phone waiting for his call, smoking, overeating, missing work, isolate yourself and set aside your love ones, holding on to his old things, go to places you frequented together… this is way, you confine yourself in the past, and it does not allow you to look at other people or potential partners. Is preferable to look for new ways to start over.

After sad reality, come its consequences: much crying, loss of appetite, sleeplessness, and nightmares… the worst is that this state of anxiety makes you do crazy things. Take it out of your mind. Is the first is first to avoid obsession.

When you have a moment of weakness, remember the negative things of the relationships, not only the positives. This, you will gradually forget, even inadvertently.

ALFA