Our level of self-esteem is directly linked to how we carry ourselves in our relationships. This will determine our capability of giving and receiving. It can help us grow, and truly understand our partner.
Self-esteem is not only linked to relationships, it’s related to everything we do, like our achievements, goals, failures and how we interact socially. As for relationships, how we are able to see and appreciate ourselves is of much important, since to be able to truly love and respect the person who is by our side, we must first do it ourselves. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else. What you are able to see in yourself, others will be able to see also.
Those who feel self-confident know what they are worth and are able to integrate it into their relationships. When you feel confident, you are not afraid to express your feelings and allow yourself to be vulnerable; also, during intimacy (important part of relationships) you will not feel insecure. All this is important for any relationship, since there is great value in what you give and receive.
However, having a too high self-esteem can damage our relationship. Things like ego don’t allow you to appreciate the little things your partner does for you. Knowing your worth is not a bad thing, but thinking you’re superior can become an issue. This can make you see your partner as a person with nothing to offer and not interesting enough for you.
This type of behavior is often a huge barrier for your partner. Where no matter how much you try, you fail to see anything beyond the importance of yourself.
Reflect on things and about yourself, how do you feel next to your partner? Do you feel inferior or superior? If your response is directed to one of the scale´s sides, act quickly and prevent a possible breakup. Remember, you are two and things must be kept in balance. Men are not above women nor vice versa. You are both one, and must grow in mutual balance.
Give yourself the courage to be able to see the greatness in people around. Remember that our insecurities make us see others as threats, or as people who only want to harm us. All this will and can affect your relationship. Don’t allow your environment affect you, allow yourself to be happy.
ALFA