Sometimes comes the day when the family grows and are not just two people but now includes a third, surely this is momentous in the life of the couple. At the drop of a hat, we don’t think of ourselves anymore, but those little people who come to illuminate our home, and fill our lives with happiness. But when we got at this stage, which for many is the most beautiful of all, things change and life begins to rotate around children.
There is the problem. By turning to the children at the center of our universe usually we make the mistake of put aside the couple, forgetting that before we became in a family, we were two people with private interests. The previous relationship should play a leading role within the family group, and that does not mean neglecting the responsibilities that we have with the children. It’s just knowing how to make time for each.
When the woman becomes mother only loses a part of her personality that side which some time ago attracted the man of her life. The same goes for the father, who leaves to become the husband role to assume roles of father, which sometimes can take to abandon his physical condition because he must also provide the family. This brings very negative consequences for the couple, because man doesn’t perceive his wife as a woman but as mother of his children, relegating the female figure and losing interest in the one-time loving and vice versa.
Well, but to avoid neglecting the couple when we are parents, it is important that both are clear that maintaining the relationship is important and must be cultivated daily. It’s necessary to be a devote husband or wife.
One of the most important issues is the sex. Sex is part of our lives and is of the utmost importance in the relationship. It is necessary to maintain the attractiveness of the sexual practice and not think of it as a task to be fulfilled. Creativity plays a major role, and when you have sex adding fun to the activity can be pleasure. This unites and strengthens the relationship to achieve even success in the family.
There are times for being parents and for being lovers. Look for that perfect moment to let you enjoy your husband, in a very romantic way. At least before it starts the baby’s crying.
The final comment is a great piece of advice, there is a time for everything, we just need to balance our different roles in life to remain sane and happy.