This is the question we commonly ask the people who believe in commitment, self-giving, and romanticism. Nowadays, young people are full of confusing messages, casual encounters, and there is no commitment.
In the fifties, the young man used to pick up his girlfriend in front of her house and take her for a milkshake. In the eighties, the young man used to pick up his girlfriend at her aerobics class and then take her to a live concert or bowling. Today, in 2015, the young man sends her a whatsapp message and from there they decide where to meet at night.
Ambiguity is getting worse, and everything is so confusing nowadays that some single women rarely trust themselves, whether they are invited to go out or not; and many times they don’t even know their status in the whole situation: if they are the man’s girlfriend or only a friend. There is no more rules or standards to seduce a person, and as a consequence, all the hope of romanticism is lost.
Many are the cases where the relationship is given by time or by chance, not because the man proposes, but usually the woman is introduced as “a friend”, the man feels attracted, and in most cases, the woman (although many deny this fact) waits for days, months, or even years until this man introduces her as his girlfriend, and she can finally feel the commitment from the other part.
We must recover real dates, have romantic and concrete plans with someone, without casual encounters (wild encounters, casual dates, or texting). This way, we will have more possibilities of getting a better option to share our lives with. The best proof in a relationship is to see how the couple balances their personalities, and to get to this result, both must know each other well. This also applies for couples that are already stablished. A romantic date has the power to renew romantic feelings, since it brings the couple back to when they met, when everything was new, they had fun, and were mad about each other.
In short, romantic dates work, and they are fun, since seduction between men and women is a tradition that was spread all over the world along the years, and we cannot let it die. So, dare to take risks, invite your partner for dinner, give hands when you go out, make yourselves feel butterflies, watch a movie together, plan a special day only for the two of you.
Going out together is very nice, so go and do something different. You never know when you can fall in love, and a romantic date may change everything.
ALFA