Love or custom? Usually and in most longstanding relationships feelings of love are often confused with the need to feel accompanied, we talk about addiction, resignation, compliance and custom; all these emotions that cloud the mind and do not let you see beyond. When a relationship becomes routine, normal and with nothing to offer, it is when the danger begins and it is imminent. Human beings are addicted to what destroys us, we sometimes go round and round in the same cycle hoping for a completion point, but we never find it, making this a vicious game.
In most of the cases, when someone has had a relationship for so long, they come to light two questions: whether they are together for emotional dependence or if it is true love; both are walking a tightrope, just waiting for one of them to fall into the void, the other will stay with the leading role of the relationship. The best way to know if you are still there for any of these reasons is deciphering each one of them.
When we speak of dependence or addiction, is simply the need to feel accompanied and it is at that moment where we hold a person just because of thinking that you may not know anyone else, for fear of being wrong or for the need to have someone in some occasions.
This is where we give the helm of the relationship to the supplier of feelings and begin to submit to his or her will, becoming slaves to asking for a little time, some interest or some affection; in short, begging for some love. And we realize that we are not well, there is no surprise or desire, but even so, the cycle continues and we get used to feed false hopes because love has faded with time.
When we talk about real love, wow, what a blessing for those who still feel it!, there are no doubts in this relationship, there is not a supplier and provider because both are providers, time has become their ally, every minute together is so prized as gold, each hour becomes witness of their ability to face obstacles hand by hand, there are not martyrs, there is nothing to beg for; everything is given all the same, everything is real. It is a relationship with a strong foundation, built with patience, dedication and respect; it is working towards the needs of each other, it is commitment and satisfaction.
If you have asked yourself t such a question is necessary to analyze and differentiate both links, the deadly weapon that destroys a relationship is monotony. In this sense, it is essential to create details and devise strategies that surprise and rekindle the fire of passion, and then you can get away from it. For this, both must do their part.
ALFA