Couples therapy is a therapeutic issue guided by a psychologist, where we seek to solve troubleshoots of a relationship, to achieve emotional balance and move towards individual or altogether plans. This becomes a taboo when pride is above love, and the desire to solve what can be damaged or what is already damaged.
The idea of admitting you have a problem and is required the help of a third party, it is a very difficult step for most, and therefore appropriate measures must be taken to rebuild the relationships or make breakup. As in any relationship, a couple can go through both: good and bad ties, but knowing how to recognize the moment for intervention could save your relationship.
At the moment that selfishness abounds in the dual environment; intransigence, different interests, negative reviews, indifference, jealousy and infidelity, repression of emotions, dependency, lack of communication, frustration, and stagnation, is the moment when you must admit and place on the table the issue of resort to couples therapy.
You and your partner are the only ones who will have the answer, but, what is this relationship counseling? The therapy involves joint and individual sessions, where the psychologist is at the service of both, is impartial. He will ask and know about your personal stories from your childhood, upbringing and family experiences, passing by the time you met, and circumstances that have pierced and your current situation.
As for the individual sessions, the idea is to understand the perspective and personalities of each one, know your personal expectations, and altogether, and the way that you want to achieve your goals. Another point to discuss during the sessions together, is your strengths and weaknesses as partners to accept and respect each other, to help you to plan your future together in short, medium and long term. A third opinion could help to highlight problems that you don’t know.
The idea of going through each of these aspects is to find solutions to discovered and exposed problems, creating a set of tools to strengthen communication and implement activities and exercises that may prevent future crises.
If you don’t know whether go to a therapist, you should ask yourself: communication is negative? Am I afraid to talk about something? When have we tried to improve? Have we achieved it? Have we left behind some affectionate gestures? Am I overwhelmed by the situation? Have sexual encounters decreased? Have I thought he is unfaithful? Do we keep secrets from each other? Am I not happy? If most of the answered are affirmative, you must accept the problem and look for help, so in this way you have taken the first step to a successful couple’s therapy.
To make a relationship work, are needed two. Demonstrate love and live new experiences, is an exercise to practice daily.
ALFA